Hey Besties, we’re talking about how parents need to stop forcing their way of life basically on their children, and I’m getting tired of adults in general thinking they should control kids. Anyways let me know your thoughts and as always have a wonderful day, pest free.
I would first of like to say, it has always pissed me off when parents want their children to follow in their “footsteps” but it either ends with them having a terrible relationship with their kid or the child is unhappy but follows their demands < not even wishes > to please them. < I would say follow Selena Gomez and lose them to love you>
For me forcing something ain’t gonna work, I’ll refuse the idea even more. Can’t parents just encourage the child or show them about whatever it is ( culture, religion, beliefs & tradition, e.t.c) instead of getting them to indulge in it by forceful ways. If you force someone they're not gonna genuinely be into it < most times > because they weren’t given the option to fall in love with it themselves.
It’s like a parent putting their child’s hair and not thinking about if the child would like it or even asking the child for permission, I mean it’s their bodies and their life. Why do you think you can do whatever you want? Just because you had a part to play in their existence doesn’t mean you own them, kids are not property or objects. People seem to forget that. The fact that the kid didn’t even have a choice if they wanted to be born is just telling.
So for like religion Kinda, why do you think God didn’t make us to be mindless robots to worship him only and not do anything outside worshipping him? I would say that’s because, he wouldn’t be giving you an option and God wants you to genuinely come to him/ her and accept him/ her < I’m not assuming God’s gender, they’re gender fluid to me > He wants you to love him/ her on your own accord not do it because you were told so or forced to.
Now forcing can DESTROY relationships. Parents are often controlling and I don’t think they realize that their kids are humans too, or that they're not robots that are meant to bow down to them. And that is the sad reality. Sometimes the kid just comes up with the idea that no matter what they do is not going to please you or make you show them any more affection, so they stop and do what makes them happy. Deep down though they are desperate for you to just support them and make them feel like they made you proud. < But we can’t always get what we want >
If the kid chooses to please you, or do what you demand of them even when they don’t want they are miserable and it’s only time before they snap. In no way is having a gruelling, controlling, mean, annoying parent fun. It’s just toxic.
I want to ask parents a question though. If you don’t expect anyone else to follow your “footsteps” or make themselves miserable to please you, then why do you expect and want your child to? Is it that you think your child your doll, to bow down and submit to you? Is it that tour just a selfish terrible person? Is it you like to torture and make someone miserable but you had no one to prey on until you had a child/ children? < Guess we’ll never know 😦 >
Your kids are only flipping HUMAN !
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